Sleep Training

I don’t engage in cry-it-out methods of sleep training (also known as controlled crying, or in some cases to ease parental guilt it’s called controlled comforting), and here are a few reasons why:

– Sleep is a natural human function. It should not need to be taught.
– When I signed up for parenthood, it was for both day and night. Sleep training seems to mean you meet all your babies needs during the day, but at night they are just an inconvenience to be managed. Well, nighttime parenting is all part of the gig. Meeting my baby’s needs, day and night, requires sacrifices that I am willing to make.
– It goes against every fibre of my instinct. I could not desensitise myself to the point of resorting to any method that goes against my biological programming.
– Babies cry to communicate, not manipulate. If a baby cries, there is a reason. They are signalling in the only way they know how that they have a need to be met. If I ignore the cry, they may eventually fall back asleep, but the reason they awoke in the first place is unresolved.
– Uncomforted distress causes damage to a child’s developing brain (according to brain scans and scientific research undertaken by Prof. Margot Sunderland, a leading expert in the development of children’s brains and a British Medical Association award-winning author – see link.
– The Australian Association for Infant Medical Health does not recommend controlled crying due to the negative consequences on a child’s psychological and emotional health- see link (PDF document).
– The cry-it-out approach undermines the basis of secure attachment – see link.
– Responding to my baby’s needs will not spoil him – see link.
– I really, really, really, really like co-sleeping.

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3 Responses to Sleep Training

  1. Mama Gringa says:

    Would love to know more about your co-sleeping habits.

  2. Ebony says:

    I never can understand why people co sleep. What was your reasoning besides that you like it? What’s the benefit for the child, and what did you do when number 2 came along and how did he handle it?

    With the controlled cryingi beleive in teaching a feed play sleep from early on (with timed wake time) and for settling them for sleep by slowly reducing your level of input! Worked for my little guy:-) never protests a sleep!

  3. informedmama says:

    I didn’t set out with a distinct reason or purpose for co-sleeping. It was just a natural instinct for me, so I went with it!

    We put Boy Wonder in his own bed and room at around 18 months of age in preparation for the new baby. One of us would always stay with him in his room until he fell asleep. He transitioned perfectly, and the first night he slept all the way through. Informed Papa and I, on the other hand, didn’t cope so well! We checked on him many times throughout the night!

    After about four months we decided we really missed him too much, so brought him back to bed with us. By that stage our daughter had come along and was about two months old. She was in a crib next to our bed, so we were co-sleeping with her, but not bed-sharing. It can be dangerous to have a toddler and an infant in bed together due to the risk of lay-over.

    Feed, Play, Sleep routines work wonderfully for some babies and I’m glad it worked for you. It never worked with Boy Wonder who preferred to feed to sleep. Our daughter, on the other hand, feeds on waking, so the pattern works better for her. I prefer not to do a timed wake up as I never wake a sleeping baby unless it is unavoidable. Babies naturally fall into their own patterns of sleep and wake, and I prefer to go with the flow with that.

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